I’ve been dating a guy now for a few weeks. It started off interesting, and still is interesting. When we first started to talk, my main worry was the whole religion barriers. I was afraid that our differences in religion would eventually come back to bite us in the butt. Do I still fear this? Yes, I do. This guy is Mormon, and I do not even believe in a God. One can only imagine the problems I would have with this. I have been trying to make sure that we are open with our beliefs and that we should not feel uncomfortable to discuss them. I feel the only thing I am still not akin to is that I feel as if he believes I will someday somehow convert to his religion. So from time to time I continue to ask him if I never converted, if it would change his view of me…at first he hesitated, but now he continues to say no, it will not. So before I continue to ramble more and more about the relationship, I wanted to ask how you guys feel about people dating/marrying when their religions are not the same?
I believe that it takes a lot of open-mindedness and patients for it to work, and it cannot only be one party participating in it. There is going to have to come a point in which you’ve got to agree upon something in many areas of life. Mainly, your children. How will they be raised? Under which religion of which parent? Should religion even be taught to them? Should both people present their beliefs and allow the child to choose? Or will there never be a common ground on how to raise the child?
How do I feel about that? I believe children have the right to choose their own religion. I feel that sure, the parents can be open (but definitely NOT pushy) with their religious beliefs. If the child has questions, be prepared to answer them…but do it in a slow way, which would not make the child look differently at the other parent. If the child goes to the opposite side of your beliefs–do not feel offended; everyone has the right to choose their own religion (as I stated before). But now the question is, will my partner agree on those terms? Well, that is something you would have to discuss with your significant other. Surely, each person will be different.
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